Friday, March 1, 2013

When I Am No Longer Young

I wish I could credit the exact origin of this story.  I wish I could tell you if it's true (I hope it is).  Sadly, both are unknown to me. It arrived at my inbox via an email forward (something I  pay little if any attention to and are most allways immediately deleted)  A rare few gain a quick glance at best. This is one of those rare few.  It is meaningful. It speaks of and about a part of our society I think is terribly ignored, and undervalued. People of 'age'.  In this country the 'no longer young' are often treated as invisible at best and valueless at worst. I have seen them treated so by strangers, by family, by merchants, by service providers. By anyone who cares not to consider that, one day, they too will be 'of age' seeking and hoping for the gifts of consideration, patience, and kindness... 

From a New York Taxi Driver:

I arrived at the address and honked the horn. After waiting a few minutes I honked again. Since this was going to be my last ride of my shift I thought about just driving away, but instead I put the car in park and walked up to the door and knocked.. ‘Just a minute’, answered a frail, elderly voice. I could hear something being dragged across the floor.
After a long pause, the door opened. A small woman in her 90′s stood before me. She was wearing a print dress and a pillbox hat with a veil pinned on it, like somebody out of a 1940′s movie.  By her side was a small nylon suitcase. The apartment looked as if no one had lived in it for years. All the furniture was covered with sheets.  There were no clocks on the walls, no knickknacks or utensils on the counters. In the corner was a cardboard  box filled with photos and glassware.

‘Would you carry my bag out to the car?’ she said. I took the suitcase to the cab, then returned to assist the woman. She took my arm and we walked slowly toward the curb.  She kept thanking me for my kindness. ‘It’s nothing’, I told her.. ‘I just try to treat my passengers the way I would want my mother to be treated.’  ‘Oh, you’re such a good boy, she said. When we got in the cab, she gave me an address and then asked, ‘Could you drive  through downtown?’
‘It’s not the shortest way,’ I answered quickly.. ‘Oh, I don’t mind,’ she said. ‘I’m in no hurry. I’m on my way to a hospice.  I looked in the rear-view mirror. Her eyes were glistening. ‘I don’t have any family left,’ she continued in a soft voice..’The doctor says I don’t have very long.’ I quietly reached over and shut off the meter. 

‘What route would you like me to take?’ I asked. For the next two hours, we drove through the city. She showed me the building where she had once worked as an elevator operator. We drove through the neighborhood where she and her husband had lived when they were newlyweds  she had me pull up in front of a furniture warehouse that had once been a ballroom where she had gone dancing as a girl. Sometimes she’d ask me to slow in front of a particular building or corner and would sit staring into the darkness, saying nothing.

As the first hint of sun was creasing the horizon, she suddenly said I’m tired. Let’s go now.
We drove in silence to the address she had given me. It was a low building, like a small convalescent home with a driveway that passed under a portico. Two orderlies came out to the cab as soon as we pulled up. They were solicitous and intent, watching her every move.
They must have been expecting her.  I opened the trunk and took the small suitcase to the door. The woman was already seated in a wheelchair.

‘How much do I owe you?’ She asked, reaching into her purse.
‘Nothing,’ I said
‘You have to make a living,’ she answered.
‘There are other passengers,’ I responded.

Almost without thinking, I bent and gave her a hug.She held onto me tightly. ‘You gave an old woman a little moment of joy,’ she said. ‘Thank you.’ I squeezed her hand, and then walked into the dim morning light.. Behind me, a door shut.It was the sound of the closing of a life..

I didn't pick up any more passengers that shift. I drove aimlessly lost in thought. For the rest of that day,I could hardly talk.What if that woman had gotten an angry driver,or one who was impatient to end his shift? What if I had refused to take the run, or had honked once, then driven away?

On a quick review, I don’t think that I have done anything more important in my life.
We’re conditioned to think that our lives revolve around great moments. But great moments often catch us unaware-beautifully wrapped in what others may consider a small one.
                                               ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~When you can, when you think of it ~ be patient.  Think about the other person (young or old but especially older). Offer  kindness, a smile. Give someone the gift of a bit of time to speak with them, or to listen to what they have to say. For just a few moments, share their life in some small way. It may be the greatest thing you could do for them or yourself or for both of you.  You may never know what (if any difference) you make, but trust me, you'll be a better person for the effort. And (trust me twice?) you'll very likely make a difference in the life of the person you were kind to.       

Thanks for reading.  Issy



Bovey Belle said...

I have tears in my eyes at this. As an empathic person I often pick up on other people's troubles and the fact my kids used to call me "softy mummy" says all. I have always tried to be kind and helpful to people (I even tried to be that way with BT until they put the date back a third time!) I can only hope that in 20 years time folks will treat me as well as this taxi driver with the dying woman. Thank you for sharing.

The Weaver of Grass said...

That is such a beautiful story that I don't think it matters whether it is true or not - it touches the heart and makes us think and that is all that really matters.

Florida Farm Girl said...

Uh huh. So true. And kindness costs nothing.